And How To Work Through It.
Falling in love with someone can be exciting and thrilling, but for many people, it’s also scary. After all, trusting someone with your heart is no simple task. What if they break it? If you’re afraid of love, it may even stem from deeper fears of vulnerability, getting hurt or the relationship failing. Have you got a fear of falling in love?
Read on to learn Unified Dating’s tips on getting past your fear of falling in love and how to move forward with your best life!
Falling in love is an amazing feeling but does the thought of make you scared? Are you someone who avoids relationships, commitments, and/or intimacy? If your fear is beyond the initial apprehensiveness, then there is an issue. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be permanent: There are several ways to get past your phobia and anxieties, and allow yourself to experience joy with someone you care about.
A new relationship is new territory, and most of us have natural fears of the unknown. Letting yourself fall in love means taking a risk. You are placing a great amount of trust in another person, which can make you feel exposed and vulnerable. Real love makes you feel vulnerable and that’s okay, as long as you feel safe.
If you’re able to work through your emotions, then you can better understand your feelings or concerns with falling in love! Identifying the route of your fear is the first step in overcoming it. Know that you are good enough. That love does not always end in pain and that being in love can make you grow as a person.
Here is a step to step to follow in your journey of overcoming your fear of love.
Name your fear
Be Honest With Yourself About Why You’re Afraid.
You need to ask yourself why you are avoiding romantic relationships. Why you’re afraid of falling in love. Are your previous experiences stopping you from getting serious with someone again? Are you of the opinion that dating is unnecessary pressure, or do you think that you will never find someone who complements your personality? Whatever your reason, it is important to first identify it so you can take steps to move past these hurdles
Be honest with your answers: This is about making your life better, so avoiding the tough parts can only hurt yourself. It’s likely that you’re not afraid of love itself, but more so have internalized fears of loss or emotional pain.
Replace the lies with the truth.
You may always have the thought at the back of your mind that ‘I’m not enough’. But that is simply your thought and no one else’s. Once you’re aware of this, the healing work becomes replacing it with the truth, which is, that you really are enough. And you are loved.
You are not without flaws, but your self-worth is not dependent on being flawless. You are worthy of love because you exist. Knowing this in your head and knowing this in your cells are two different experiences, however. So be patient with yourself as you ferret out the causes and ramifications of believing that you’re not enough and find ways of replacing that lie with the truth.
Make peace with the risk of loss.
You need to ask yourself; do you fear love or heartbreak?
Loss always hurts no matter what. So you may as well love fully while you have the chance, and trust that you WILL recover from the shattering heartbreak of loss.
Healing a broken heart often takes time. But there are things you can do to support yourself through the healing process and protect your emotional wellbeing.
Unified Dating’s events are a fun, yet safe experience designed to make you feel comfortable with other singles. We’ve all been through heartbreak, and often others will be able to relate and help you through it!