There is so much focus out there on the magic of new relationships but what is most important is keeping the magic going after being with someone for a while. Here are Unified Dating’s top tips to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship.
Remember the butterflies you used to get when you saw their name flash up on your phone or the nerves when you are meeting for a date? Well, it is still possible to continue getting those feelings. Even when you now know all of their annoying habits.
Break the routine
If you find yourselves looking back at your sex life and wondering where it all went wrong, it’s important to get that sorted asap. Just because you have been together for a while, it doesn’t mean your sex life needs to disappear. Sit down together and ask if there is anything you would like to try in the bedroom, how you are both feeling about your sex life and how you think you can improve it.
But it’s not just about sex, it’s your everyday routine. This is particularly normal for all of you that work a 9-5. You get home, cook dinner, watch TV, go to sleep, and repeat.
It’s easy to get into a routine when you have been someone long-term. It’s stress free. But after a while, you will get bored and long for something more. It is important to talk and get these things out in the open.
Continue the date nights
It’s easy for life can get in the way. And for date nights to be pushed down the priority list.
Dating is one of the things people most of us miss about first being in a relationship, where you get dressed up and make an effort for one another, heading out for dinner or doing something special.
Not only do you feel better about yourself, but the effort your partner has put in is also something you will appreciate as well. You will get a chance to spend quality time together and have fun.
Schedule a day a week or every month dedicated to a date night and make sure you always stick to it. It doesn’t have to be anything special or extravagant. It could be as simple as getting a takeout and watching your favourite film on TV.
You could even take it in turns to plan something as a surprise! Or decide together if you’re not a fan of surprises! Whichever you choose, you will find it soon becoming the highlight of your schedule.
Also, you should make a rule to not talk about any negative issues such as money or household chores. Instead focus on positive topics that will take you away from life worries and allow you to have a great time!
Show Your Love and Affection
Love doesn’t exist unless it is treated as a vital and living force between two people. Saying ‘I love you’ holds far less meaning than showing your love to your partner. Show excitement when you see each other. Make time to just talk and chill out. And be sure to make spontaneous affection part of your everyday life.
Small steps, like holding hands and making eye contact, are easy to overlook in the face of busy schedules and responsibilities, but they can be key to keeping love exciting. And kissing is also super important. It is a simple way of showing your loved one your affection.
Keep your Communication Open
Inviting open communication and being receptive to feedback can help you overcome the real obstacles in relationships.
Instead of making excuses or counterattacking when your partner gives you feedback, try putting yourself in their shoes and understand where they are coming from. Be compassionate to how they feel. You should seek to be direct and honest with your own feelings!
Yes, those first weeks and months, the excitement and attraction are in full force. But after some time, you settle into a routine, and life’s obligations have a tendency of snuffing out the romance.
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